fuck false positivity
October 25, 2015
every so often you’ll see post that more or less asserts:
“things would be so much better if we spend as much time loving each other/ourselves as we do hating white ppl”
by some poc who thinks that they are contributing something useful to teh discourse.
i think most recently it was this variation:
“imagine if we focused on loving each other instead of being angry/resentful towards white queers who reject us”
as much as i do get what these ppl are trying to communicate it always leaves me with a bitter taste in my mouth and one usual response:
i resent being told to just ‘get over” my terrible experiences in dealing with white gays
i resent the implication that i was vulnerable to being hurt bc i just wasn”t focused on loving other poc, instead of seeking white validation.
i resent the idea that anyone, including other poc, are entitled to my love and attention.
i resent the idea that i can’t hate and love at the same time.
i resent being told that i’m not processing my emotions and trauma fast enough to suit someone else”s schedule.